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Therapeia |
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120 Avonmead Greenmeadow Swindon Wilts SN25 3PS |
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Phone 01793 706862 |
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Advanced Hypnotherapy Stress Management and NLP |
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Mobile: 07913 365986 Email: enquiries@therapeia.co.uk |
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4. Rapport Rapport is meeting another person in their map of the world and working from their frames of reference. A key element in communication, is the development and maintenance of rapport, which can be achieved by skilful use of the above. When we see people in rapport you will observe similar body posture, at times mirroring each other, there will be a matching of language patterns. In social groups this type of unconscious behaviour creates bonds and identifies people as ‘one of us’. This can also generate social conformity which can have an impact on activities and behaviours including addictions such as smoking etc. The opposite, when rapport is not generated, can be feelings of they don’t fit’, animosity or simple indifference, at the worst end of the spectrum is group closure, This is where bigotry and racism can set in from extreme forms of ‘them and us’ thinking. The important thing to us as individuals is that it is easier to work with people than in spite of people |
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Rapport A traveler coming down from the town in the highlands, was on his way to the town in the valley. He stopped a monk working in a field and asked “excuse me brother, but can you tell me what the people are like in the town in the valley?” The monk replied, “why, what were they like in the town that you have just come from?” The man then told the monk that he had found the people in the mountain town very aloof, he actually felt quite threatened, not at all welcoming and he was glad to get away. The monk then told the traveler “I expect that you will find that they’re exactly the same in the next town. A few weeks later, another traveler, heading to the town in the valley from the mountain town, stopped the monk working in the field and asked “excuse me brother, but can you tell me what the people are like in the town in the valley?” The monk replied, “why, what were they like in the town that you have just come from?” The man replied that he had found the people in the mountain town very welcoming, That they had treated him like one of the family, indeed he was sad to leave the place. The monk then told the traveler “I expect that you will find that they’re exactly the same in the next town. |